[This topic too profound for a short post.]

One model is Mother Theresa:  “I am not feeding the poor.  I am doing the will of Christ.” 

By the way, response-ability means the ability to respond.  Again, it is natural, going with the Tao.  Read the rather long PB quote on “mounting the dragon and riding into the sky.”   9.3.566 long quote

You can have personal responsibility for the mess that you made to clean it up,

I recommend this “Pathworks” lecture.  Very inciteful.

https://pathwork.org/lectures/the-abyss-of-illusion-freedom-and-self-responsibility/